Listen up, Men!
It’s totally acceptable for a woman and her family to ask you, “What are you worth?” They’ll want to know about your career, your assets, and your ability to provide. Society has conditioned us to accept this scrutiny as part of the process. But the moment you flip the script and ask if she’s well-raised, cultured, disciplined, or even a virgin, suddenly, you’re the villain.
Let me tell you something: this double standard is manipulation, plain and simple. Don’t fall for it, son. If you’re expected to bring value to the table as a man, then she must bring value too as a woman. Relationships are partnerships, not charity work.
Here’s the truth: as a man, your worth is measured by your ability to provide, protect, and lead. But what about her worth? If you’re bringing stability, discipline, and resources, then she must bring qualities that complement and support your efforts—respect, discipline, nurturing energy, and loyalty.
When you ask if she’s well-raised, it’s not an attack—it’s you demanding accountability. A well-raised woman brings peace, not chaos. She builds, she doesn’t destroy. Asking if she’s disciplined isn’t criticism; it’s ensuring she has the emotional maturity to handle life’s challenges without turning your home into a battlefield.
And yes, asking about her purity or past is your right. Why? Because the value she places on herself reflects the standards she’ll bring into your union. If they can question your ability to lead and provide, you can question her ability to support and respect.
Don’t be manipulated into believing that value is one-sided. Relationships require mutual contribution. If you’re putting in the work to be a high-value man, she must match that energy as a high-value woman. Anything less is a disservice to yourself and your future.
Stay sharp, stay assertive, and never lower your standards.
